Evil Step-Mom!!! Help!!?

ok...so my step-mom is enormously strict. I can't have a cell phone, I have to pay for my contacts, if I go to a party she has to call the parents and make sure that the movie is not rated R, I have timed phone calls that can't go over half an hour even tho its free. she even calls my best friends house when i go over to make sure i'm not doing anything. if i go to the movies and i tell her someone ISN'T going to be there..she calls their house just to make sure they didn't go. i have to pay for clothes, contacts, if i get a cell phone i have to pay for that, shoes, sports stuff (and i'm in volleyball, basketball, and track)...and i have to pay for food when we go out to eat. and my curfew is 10:30..so if i go to a movie it has to be an early movie b/c if i go to the late movie it'll go over my time..even if i go over to a friends house after the late movie!! I really want to talk to her about changing the rules MAJORLY...wat do i say? and how do i say it calmly cuz i'm soo pissed?

Evil Step-Mom!!! Help!!?
How old are you? Obviously under 18 or you'd be out on your own....prove to your dad %26amp; step-mom that you are mature and can be trusted.





What does your dad say about all this 'strictness'? Does he agree with her rules?? Does he have a backbone??





I can tell she is concerned abut your safety and also she's trying to teach you some responsibility and money management. That's a good thing.





If you want to talk to her and your dad about loosening up, then you need to have your arguments ready. Be ready to tell her how you can be responsible. Save your money to pay your own expenses. (Remember your dad will not always be around to pay your bills and who's to say he's leaving any money to you when he dies?)
Reply:Sorry but it sounds like she is actually parenting you to become a responsible and successful adult. Sorry, that's what happens when parents care, they actually raise you instead of allowing movies, t.v shows and magazines raise you.
Reply:it seems like she really loves you !!! i know tht might sound weird


! sit her down be like ok! i know u really must care about me cause all the rules and i always follow them but maybe can u lighten up on them cause im a kid kids do kids stuff hang out wit hfreins and cal each other longer thsn hlaf hour! when you were a kid you didnt probaly have all these rules! so can u lighten up on them and maybe over time shell lighten up on them not all at once!
Reply:I believe in almost everything your step mom is doing. Well, depending on how old you are. If you are older like 18, out of high school, and you have a job then you should be paying for everything yourself. If you are underage and still in high school then she should be paying for your food, and clothes (within reason). My niece is 14 and she isn't allowed to do anything either, she can't go to the movies at night especially on weekends, her mom has to know all of the parents before she's allowed to go to anyones house, she is not allowed to watch rated r movies and she can't go to the mall with her friends unless it's during daylight hours. She has a cell phone, but it's a pre-paid one and she has to pay for the minutes herself. Maybe you can sit down with her and your dad and talk about the rules see if they can bend some. If you are a good kid like get good grades then you should be able to have some freedoms.



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